People say that you grow the most when times are hard.  That is very much true for me.  My husband left me after less than two years of marriage, when our son was only 15 months old.  I sunk into a deep depression, and even had suicidal thoughts.  Here I was, a psychologist who had researched suicide at Harvard University, and it STILL happened to me.  

Three years later, when I was still struggling with feelings of self doubt and worry, I thought that maybe I was the one who was broken.  I thought that divorce had damaged me for good.  So I went back to my academic roots and began researching.  And researching.  

What I realized, buried in the neuroscience literature, was that our theories of Self, the foundations of Psychology, were mistaken.  We are not our thoughts and feelings – we are more accurately the experiencer of an ecosystem of thoughts and feelings, most of which aren’t even ours.  I felt immediate relief and healing, and had a brand new, science-based view of who I actually was.  It then became my mission to share this knowledge broadly, to help others who are struggling experience the same peace and happiness that they, like me, probably never thought was possible.